Questions & Answers
Below are some typical questions people ask on spiritual matters and I have endeavoured to answer them based on my own experience and understanding.
What’s it like communicating with the dead?
No idea. The beings I communicate with on the other side are very much alive! While their physical body may be no more, their eternal essence is very much alive and well in the spirit world.
How do you know if a medium is genuine?
The same way you would know if a doctor, plumber, or a PR Consultant is genuine, by the quality of their work, their reputation/recommendations and also how you feel intuitively about them. I would always recommend, ultimately, that you go with your gut feeling.
Do we all have spirit guides?
Yes. We all have one main guide and a number of secondary, or supporting, guides. There are also specialist guides that come to help us with a specific life phase and leave when it is completed. Guides are there to guide and help us to achieve the goals we set for ourselves before coming into this incarnation. They are not there to give us all the answers, or make our lives easy; there would be no point in being here if they did!
Why are spirit guides always Red Indians, monks, nuns or ancient Egyptians?
Spirit Guides and indeed all spirits are energy. They often show themselves in human form for our benefit,
as we are in human form and most people prefer to see their Spirit Guide in a form they can relate to. In my experience, Guides often show themselves in a way that reflects their energy type and personality traits. So, for example, a very strong, warrior-type energy, might show itself as a Red Indian, Zulu, ancient Egyptian or Roman solider. A softer, gentle, wise energy may show itself as a Tibetan or Franciscan monk, priest, rabbi or nun. Also bear in mind that just because a guide shows itself in a certain human form does not mean it was in that form when it was incarnated, although it is also possible it is showing you itself as it was in one of its lifetimes.
Do soul contracts actually exist?
I believe we agree to a soul contract in the spirit world, prior to incarnating. This sets out, in some detail, the theme of the upcoming life, objectives, lessons, and key people we will interface with.
Is everything we experience in our lives already agreed before we come?
No. Many of the key people, main events and lessons are determined before we come, but we can also create certain experiences and situations we did not plan.
Does freewill actually exist?
I believe it does, but the degree of freewill depends on our level of spiritual attainment. It is my understanding that those who are more advanced on a soul level, have less freewill. And even with the existence of freewill, remember we agreed to a soul contract before life, so to some degree we are operating within the parameters of that contract, even if we might not realise it consciously.
What would you say to anyone looking to work with the spirit world?
We all work with the spirit world on some level, consciously or unconsciously. First and foremost we are spirit. For those looking to work consciously with spirit as a medium, teacher or healer, for example, I would say first and foremost think very carefully. Consciously opening to spirit can affect and change your life in ways you cannot see at the beginning of your journey. Things can look very different several years down the road and once the door is open, it is very difficult, if not impossible, to close it.
Why do different mediums say different things?
As in all professions, training plays a big role, as well as the experiences the person has amassed along the way. Spirituality is also a highly complex subject and a person's level of understanding is directly related to their level of evolution, which, of course, varies quite considerably. My best advice, to anyone receiving information from a medium, or from anyone for that matter, is to only ever accept what resonates with you on an inner level.
Is it true that the more light you embody the more negativity you attract?
Yes, I would say this is correct. There are many famous examples of this in history. Just look at the story of Jesus and others who have walked the higher path, such as St Francis, Ghandi, Padre Pio and Princess Diana. To quote the Armenian Mystic & Philosopher, George Gurdjieff: "The force and degree of a man's inner benevolence evokes in others a proportionate degree of ill-will."
What is karma?
Karma is the balancing of the books. Whilst in human form, we can earn positive karma, or accrue negative karma, depending on our words and deeds. Often in physical life, we chose to repay certain negative karma accrued in past lives although in most cases we are not aware of the details consciously.
Why are family dynamics so challenging?
They are devised that way with the intention of creating soul growth for all parties. Family members are usually (but not always) members of our soul group and incarnate with us during many lives, playing many different roles. A family group often contains members with very different views, personality traits and beliefs, hence the challenges! Karma can also influence family dynamics and it is not uncommon for past life karma to be paid back through family relationships.
What if the loved ones I once knew have reincarnated by the time I get back to the spirit world? Will I be able to see them again as I knew them?
As I understand it, there is a different soul aspect for each life. Think of it as an orange with many segments. Each segment represents a different lifetime, or incarnation. So, for example, a Grandad who passed when you were 12 years old, will still be in the spirit world when you return, even if he has reincarnated during your incarnated lifetime.
Can you have many incarnations at the same time?
Yes it is possible to have multiple incarnations in the same timeframe. Indeed, ultimately, all incarnations are happening at the same time, as there is no time in the spirit world.
Why do so many people think they are 'old souls'?
Probably because most of us are, at least from the perspective of having had many incarnations/past lives. However, it should be noted that 'old' does not necessarily mean 'advanced'. Just like an eighty year old woman may not necessarily have more wisdom than an eight year old girl, neither may an old soul be as advanced spiritually as a younger soul with far fewer incarnations under their belt.
Can everyone communicate with spirit?
Absolutely. First and foremost, we are spirit, but in human form we are spirit temporarily inhabiting a physical body. We all communicate with our soul, our higher self, spirit guides and loved ones in the spirit realms, in a variety of ways, whether we are conscious of it, or not.
Is there a heaven and a hell?
I believe there is a spirit world, where we all, as non physical consciousness, come from and return to at the end of a physical life. While I do not believe in a heaven and hell as such, I do believe that there are levels within the spirit realm and the level in which we reside directly corresponds to our level of spiritual evolution and attainment.
Are some people (souls) evil and some good?
I believe all souls are fundamentally good, although contain within them aspects of both light and darkness, in addition to a spark of the creator! During physical existence, in this planet of duality, some people (souls) may be drawn more into darkness, while others may very much walk in the light. Soul age, level of spiritual development and past life experiences can have a bearing on the disposition and tendencies of the soul in the current lifetime. I am quite sure we will have all lived good and bad lives, as I believe the soul experiences everything during its reincarnational cycles.
Do evil spirits really exist?
Yes they do, although I believe all spirits, no matter how dark they may appear, contain light within them. In my opinion, a so called evil spirit is nothing more than a spirit that has temporarily lost its way.
Are mental health issues caused by evil spirits and discarnate entities?
I believe the influence of dark spirits or discarnate entities in general can certainly affect people to varying degrees, but I would also say it is a gross overstatement to say that mental health issues are caused exclusively by this type of interference.
How can I be happy?
This is the million dollar question and I do not purport to have the answer! What I can say, however, is that a lot of unhappiness comes from not being present in the moment. Many people live in the past, which has gone, or in the future, which has yet to come. Live fully in the now, all that there really ever is. I would also suggest a healthy diet, daily exercise, drink plenty of water and spend time in nature, or in a natural environment, as often as possible. All of these things will raise your vibration and level of happiness.